I totally agree. But how do we communicate to people who don't understand?

This tip reminds me of the great title of the classic book on ADHD, "You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?" Reading this was the first time in my life I started to realise maybe I'm not lazy or a bad person - but just someone doing the best she can with a brain that finds modern life challenging to say the least! It was a great weight off my shoulders (unfortunately not off my hips too) to start believing that all the years of being told by parents and teachers I was lazy, didn't mean they were right. Furthermore, all the years of constantly beating myself up by telling myself I'm useless and lazy were not helping me either. Ironically, when I manage to shut that negative voice down and practise being a compassionate friend to myself I actually get more done!

After my diagnosis I worry I have become lazy after being told I was for so long when I wasn't now I'm worried I'm using it as an excuse internally

Somewhat helpful. I have never felt lazy, just burnt out all the time.

Guess I'm just lazy and terrible then

I struggle starting tasks everyday, in my head I hear I am lazy but I feel over whelmed

So this explains why I get so upset with myself when I can’t manage the housework and other people can’t understand why it bothers me so much. I don’t understand how people manage it all.

Makes perfect sense and now gives perspective that I am not lazy just need to find different techniques to complete tasks not half finish them and not get overwhelmed at the thought of the task.

I cant stand that i need order and symmetry but i can never ever do it and keep it that way!!...
My whole life ive felt so lazy an beat myself up like nobody else!!!

I get so angry with myself for not being able to do tasks and get angry at my husband for not doing them either, but I don't tell him I'm angry and I don't ask him if he can do certain things because when he does he doesn't do them to 'right'. He knows i'll always pick holes in what he does so he doesn't do stuff, and then I hate him for not doing things. It's never ending and things still don't get done.

I get so angry with myself for not being able to do tasks and get angry at my husband for not doing them either, but I don't tell him I'm angry and I don't ask him if he can do certain things because when he does he doesn't do them to 'right'. He knows i'll always pick holes in what he does so he doesn't do stuff, and then I hate him for not doing things. It's never ending and things still don't get done.

i like this as a way to see ourselves and no longer berate ourselves. I have generally had the 'will' but realise that overwhelm gets in the way of action. I'm also realising that the most important key for me to reduce the overwhelm is to break down the task into smaller parts which then feel pretty small and actually desirable to achieve!

i like this as a way to see ourselves and no longer berate ourselves. I have generally had the 'will' but realise that overwhelm gets in the way of action. I'm also realising that the most important key for me to reduce the overwhelm is to break down the task into smaller parts which then feel pretty small and actually desirable to achieve!

I get so angry with myself for not being able to do tasks and get angry at my husband for not doing them either, but I don't tell him I'm angry and I don't ask him if he can do certain things because when he does he doesn't do them to 'right'. He knows i'll always pick holes in what he does so he doesn't do stuff, and then I hate him for not doing things. It's never ending and things still don't get done.

I get so angry with myself for not being able to do tasks and get angry at my husband for not doing them either, but I don't tell him I'm angry and I don't ask him if he can do certain things because when he does he doesn't do them to 'right'. He knows i'll always pick holes in what he does so he doesn't do stuff, and then I hate him for not doing things. It's never ending and things still don't get done.

I cant stand that i need order and symmetry but i can never ever do it and keep it that way!!...
My whole life ive felt so lazy an beat myself up like nobody else!!!

Makes perfect sense and now gives perspective that I am not lazy just need to find different techniques to complete tasks not half finish them and not get overwhelmed at the thought of the task.

So this explains why I get so upset with myself when I can’t manage the housework and other people can’t understand why it bothers me so much. I don’t understand how people manage it all.

I struggle starting tasks everyday, in my head I hear I am lazy but I feel over whelmed

Guess I'm just lazy and terrible then

Somewhat helpful. I have never felt lazy, just burnt out all the time.

After my diagnosis I worry I have become lazy after being told I was for so long when I wasn't now I'm worried I'm using it as an excuse internally

Yes, I self sabotage telling myself I'm lazy and a failure when my outcomes/output is the same as my colleagues, sometimes higher. But I zone out so often it's embarrasing and the guilt/shame factor can be overwhelming. I end up working overtime to try and catch up. I'm always tired.

Dammit this is so important. Spent so long thinking I was lazy because that is what others said.

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